DAY ONE: It’s not that I’m a bitch all the time. Well, not that I’m aware of. I guess you’d have to ask my husband. But I think I need to be nicer to him. Well, first I need to be WITH him. I’ve been gone off and on since the beginning of March. I’ve left my husband to take care of our son, to take care of the house, to cook, clean (well, maybe not clean), and generally run things so I can go off with my sisters, and future in-laws and and and. As I watched him walk out the door today to drive my dad back to Bismarck (it’s a long story), I was overcome with his kindness. I mean, this is a really GOOD guy. He rarely complains, is ALWAYS ready to help (he moved my daughter into her apartment, walking up and down three flights of stairs a billion times without a single complaint), and is very patient when I freak out (which unfortunately has tended to be an awful lot lately). Do I take care of him well enough? Am I kind enough? Do I nurture and support him as I should? The scary answer came to me quite plainly - I don’t think so. So I wondered what I could/should do to correct this current dilemma, and the answer came to me completely formed. Be kind for 28 days. Do not bitch, do not criticize, do not complain, do not be crabby (well, that may be a stretch), take time to give him shoulder rubs and ask about his day, compliment him, listen to him. I get so self-absorbed with my important daily issues and tasks and problems that I think I leave him in the dust sometimes. It simply can NOT be that easy living with me. So I vow to correct that today. I will meet him at the door when he gets home from work, hug him and tell him I love him. I started today. I will chronicle how it goes every day. I will continue to be honest, and we’ll see together how this transforms not only our relationship, but me as an individual. I’m excited to see what will unfold. Will you join me on this next grand adventure?
